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Think for the other person ….

I can’t emphasize this enough. I have always believed one of the marks of true wisdom and maturity is to be able to see from another person’s perspective, and be able to take decisions and actions that accordingly addresses problems they are facing.

Let me be plain, I am going to focus my magnifying glass on how we as young people often mishandle our relations with the opposite sex.

I don’t want to be believe I’m the only one who has the tendency to get aroused when I linger long enough around a lady I am attracted or can potentially get attracted to.
From the stories, real life recounts shared by most of my female friends, they too don’t always have a handle on how sexually they can get attracted to guys, especially, those they closely engage – So we’re all in this together.

Please, and please again, it is very normal to get sexually attracted to someone of the opposite sex, that is actually an indicator that all your “engines” are fully operational, as they should.
Yet, sexual passions or drives are dangerous if they are let out of control.

Sometimes, I watch news of the wildfires in Australia and think to myself, “if someone were there to quench this when it had all started, would the fires have spread wildly so?”
Of course, I already know the answer.

Everything big starts small.

You are way better off dealing with a seed-sized problem, than a tree-sized issue.
If a seed has the tendency to grow into a tree you find undesirable, crush it there and then.
If you plant it, water it, nurse it, and allow it to grow into a gigantic tree, it will evidently cost more to get rid of the problem.

I believe if the Israelites had seen Goliath as a baby, they would have dealt with him if they knew he was going to grow into that super tall giant who would terrorize the entire nation someday.

Don’t ignore the initial signs, don’t shun those seemingly silly remarks, don’t ignore the look in their eyes – the look that says they want you, the look that screams they want more.

I’m not saying defining your relationships means as soon as you start engaging a member of the opposite sex, you go like, “Hey there, I don’t want any romantic relationship oo, let’s be just friends…” (that’s actually a weird way to go about it).
But I’m telling you, as you engage the opposite sex, be aware of the signs, the slightest of changes, don’t be the last person to realize they want more from you than you want from them.

When your other friends see you together and ask, “Are you guys together?”, don’t laugh it off as a silly joke, even if you didn’t start the spark, you can guide the flame and gently tame it. Never leave things at a maybe if that’s what you never intended for things to be.

Talk to your friend, tell them what you’ve observed (when you’re convinced they’ve started fanning the flame of some hope of romance with you).
If they deny it, fine.
If they don’t, be honest and up front with them about how you truly feel.

More often than not, they’ll deny they were having hopes of any romantic pursuits, but that’s okay, that puts you in the clear.
You’ve communicated clearly, you’ve shared your perspectives and observations.
They can’t later pin any blames on you that you fueled some imaginary hope.

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To be continued…..

(In my next post, we’ll be doing a case study – stay tuned).

Cheers to learning more. Cheers to being more 壟❤ ….

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